When we first met, it was an extraordinary experience, and instantly we knew that we are going to spend the rest of our lives together. Once you are heading towards a committed relationship, many questions might pop up in your head. Do you need to change yourself once you are committed? Is it an essential part of a relationship? If yes, to what extent do you need to change? Do you need to grow up or replace your old habits? These questions may scare you. In fact, I have deliberated these questions myself. It is hard to imagine what you are doing when you are falling head over heel in love with the other person. But what exactly is the commitment in a relationship and what are the must-haves to show commitment in a relationship? Read on to learn more!
What Is Commitment In A Relationship?
The must-haves for a healthy, committed relationship are trust, integrity, openness, and respect for each other. Partners in a committed relationship have to mutually agree upon the essential things in life, to build the foundation for a happy marriage.
We were lucky enough to find all these values for each other; we clicked and soon started dating. It was going great, and then the proposal happened. We planned to move in together. The reality of living together before marriage will soon creep in, and you may find many things about your partner that do not please you and needs change.
From there, our lives changed drastically. It was not completely downhill, but an interesting experience that made our relationship stronger.
Below Are The Must-Haves You Must Develop For A Committed Relationship!
1. Respect Your Partner
The first and foremost thing that shows you’re committed to a relationship is the fact that you respect each other. A person who loves you will never disrespect you.
It is okay for two people to have different perspectives or opinions, yet respect each other without judgment. When you show respect to your partner they will feel safe and feel free to express themselves. Appreciate your partner’s achievement and respect for who they are.
Here are the signs that show your partner respects you!
2. Build Compatibility In Relationship
Doing things that you love together, believing similar values, following a healthy routine, or even rooting for the same music band are examples of good compatibility.
Being compatible with your partner means that there is no need for you to pretend to be someone else when around each other.
You can freely express love, sadness, anger, or excitement with your partner without fearing the consequences.
Compatibility Areas For Partners
For are a healthy and happy relationship, these are the areas where couples must share compatibility:
- Hygiene or Cleanliness
- Sexual needs or Intimacy
- Life goals and Dreams
- Religion or Spirituality
- Money and Financial Goals
- Family and Children
3. Plan Your Future Together
When you are single, you are not entitled to share your future plans with anyone. However, in a committed relationship, you both must plan your future together.
You have to grow up and plan your life. Getting a good job, earning money, planning for a child are some of them. What kind of future do you both want? And how comfortable is your life with those plans? All these things are to be considered to show commitment in a relationship.
Discuss with your partner, where they see themselves in the future, and where they would like to settle. Each other’s future plans must align with each other or at least mutually agree upon a common future.
4. Let The Small Things Go
- The towel is again on the bed.
- The dishes are not in the dishwasher.
- The house isn’t clean and tidy.
- The toilet seat is not closed.
When in a committed relationship, all these things can be complaints from your partner.
Staying in a hostel, Airbnb, or staying with friends is very different from living with your partner. When you are in a committed relationship, you have to take care of your home and hygiene. Right from your laundry to your car service, everything must go on schedule.
You are building a life together, so things need to be adjacent and comfortable for both the partners.
Having said that, one must give time; and respect their partner’s efforts towards making the relationship work. In a committed relationship, you have to let go of the small things to stay sane and happy.
5. Give Personal Space To Each Other
Personal space is a good thing. You need space to be an individual and grow well.
When two individuals have their own space without unnecessary interference from their partners, the relationship becomes strong.
Also, people tend to be considerate of their better half’s time and effort. You would also need physical space to fit each other’s material.
6. Have A Healthy Sex Life
Healthy sex life is essential, and the key to a long-term committed relationship. A study showed an average adult had sex at least once a week, accounting for 54 times a year.
Sexless marriage or a relationship might be a red flag in your love life. So you should enjoy sex and maintain the right frequency.
It is not mandatory to maintain the one-week sex norm. Discuss your sexual needs and try to fulfill them.
7. Meet Each Other’s Family
Generally, a family is a big part of one’s life. Meeting your partner’s family can be awkward and uncomfortable in the beginning. Yet if you do it out of love for your partner, it shows huge commitment signs.
So if you want to make your partner love you more, impress their family. And your partner will be all yours 😉
8. You Plan Vacations And Travel Together
Obviously duh! You are not single anymore.
One of the good signs of showing commitment in a relationship is to travel together. If you plan to go on a trip with your partner, there are so many things you would discover about each other and come back home with more memorable experiences.
Right from planning ahead for your hotel reservations, up until heading back home from the airport, there are plenty of things that you can do to show signs of commitment and love in a relationship.
Whatever you plan for your future or even for the late evening, you need to plan everything for two. Having a “Single Night” and “Date Night” is quite common. But then you have to plan a lot of things for two people.
9. Compromise Yet Create New Memories
Can I have the remote, please?
You cannot always watch that football match or your favorite action film anymore. Even while watching movies, both partners should mutually agree and select amongst their common choices.
Nothing beats the feeling of closing up and watching something together. Sometimes you need to give up and sit through your partner’s choice.
So, while being in a committed relationship, not everything might go as per your plans. Sometimes, you must have to participate in your partner’s plan and create new memories.
Yet, there are a few things not to compromise even being in a relationship.
Letting go of the little things and sometimes even compromising, can be a sign of commitment in a relationship.
You would find happiness in love and surrender. Perhaps that does not mean you compromise and settle for less than what you deserve.
You need to learn the art of discriminating what is good and bad for your relationship. Far beyond the boundary of emotional bonding, there is a practical world as well.
10. Say I Love You, And Show It As Well
Last but not least.
Well, your love knows no bounds. After being in a long-term committed relationship, saying these three words would hold more meaning than ever before.
More than just words, you have to show your love and commitment. Show love by taking care of your partner when they are sick, try hard to fulfill their dreams, etc.
One small way to show commitment in a relationship or to add some extra love is to call out your partner by sweet nicknames. You must share an openness and communicate how you feel about your partner.
Being in a committed relationship can teach you several things. Above all, it must make you a better person.
Initially, some of the must-haves in a committed relationship can make you anxious or even annoyed. But it’s just the matter of being with the person you love and care the most. Whether you like it or not, when you grow out of the old habits and discover how happy you both are in the relationship, it is worth growing up. You may or may not like these changes, but at the end of it, all the smile on your partner’s lips will make your day.
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Key Takeaways On The Must-Haves For Commitment In A Relationship
1. Respect Your Partner
The first and foremost thing that shows you’re committed to a relationship is the fact that you respect each other. A person who loves you will never disrespect you.
2. Build Compatibility In Relationship
For are a healthy and happy relationship, areas where couples must share compatibility are hygiene, sexual needs, life goals, financial goals, family, and children, etc.
3. Plan Your Future Together
Discuss with your partner, where they see themselves in the future, and where they would like to settle.
4. Let The Small Things Go
In a committed relationship, you have to let go of the small things to stay sane and happy.Â
5. Give Personal Space To Each Other
Personal space is a good thing. You need space to be an individual and grow well. When two individuals have their own space without unnecessary interference from their partners, the relationship becomes strong.
6. Have A Healthy Sex Life
Healthy sex life is essential, and the key to a long-term committed relationship. Discuss your sexual needs and try to fulfill them.
7. You Meet Each Other’s Family
Meeting your partner’s family can be awkward and uncomfortable in the beginning. Yet if you do it out of love for your partner, it shows commitment in a relationship.
8. You Plan Vacations And Travel Together
One of the good signs of showing commitment in a relationship is to travel together. If you plan to go on a trip with your partner, there are so many things you would discover about each other and come back home with more memorable experiences.
9. Compromise Yet Create New Memories
One of the must-haves to build a solid relationship is the willingness to compromise and fulfill your partner’s wishes and needs. It is the extra mile you walk to make your partner happy, thereby creating new memories.
10. Show That You Love And Care
More than just words, you have to show your love and commitment by care, affection, and the efforts you make to build an everlasting relationship. Moreover, these are all the must-haves in a relationship that can lead to a happy marriage.
