The term criticism gives a very negative vibe, but in fact, it is about feedback and evaluation. Feedback is a gift that helps us to improve our work and hone our skills. The perspective of the person critiquing makes criticism either hurtful or helpful.
Most of the time criticism act as a term of evaluation and judgment.
We all face criticism at some point in time of time. We all work hard towards getting approval. Obsessing over what people might think is due to the fact that we wish to avoid criticism. Sometimes we even argue and embarrass ourselves to avoid feeling vulnerable or in the spotlight. Just because we are afraid of being judged, we do not understand the difference between constructive criticism and destructive criticism.
The difference between the two lies in the way the comments are delivered and received. Both of them challenge the way we think and the ability to do the work. Both of them are capable of bringing down the confidence and self-esteem. But only one would help you to rise back, while the other would push you further down. Destructive criticism is downright malicious and hurtful, and it sometimes leads to aggression. Constructive criticism, on the other hand, shows your mistakes and help you learn to perform better.
Never be afraid of being critiqued. Be prepared to handle any criticism by following these steps.
Smart Ways To Handle Criticism Like A Pro!
1. Do not take it personally
Don’t take it as a personal attack. Consider it as a feedback. Don’t feel defensive or sad when criticized; instead, analyze the intention of the messenger. The criticism is for the work and not for the person who delivered it. It is not a personal attack.
2. Listen and take note
Sift through all the negatives and try to listen to the constructive criticism. Hear what is said. Ask questions too, if required to make sure you thoroughly understand. If the feedback is negative, ignore the rude comments. Focus on the how you can bring the changes. Learn from them. It is an opportunity to improve from the suggestions.
3. Respond Calmly
Be calm and never be rude. Always be respectful and thank the person for the valuable feedback. After all, it would help you improve your work. Even if the critique is disrespectful, kill them with kindness. If you have anger issues, wait till it subsides. Let it settle down before you respond. Do not make it an ego clash.
4. Don’t blow it out of proportion
You should be careful that you do not react in the manner of criticism. Don’t take the feedback out of its context in your mind. Discuss it to make sure you understand the critic’s intentions and later use them on your positive side. Respond to the feedback and evaluation and never to the tone. Most people react to the confrontational manner. Detach the emotion from the valuable suggestions.
5. Value the criticism
Our mind is conditioned to accept praises and reject critiques. Kind words are always appreciated and make us feel good about ourselves, but when someone says harsh words, even when they are correct, we end up feeling miserable. False praises and flattery is not helpful and would not help you get the best out of yourself. To progress, we need to improve, and constructive criticism helps. These words are what make you better.
6. Stop over analyzing
Rather than wasting your time on the blame try and take actions on the suggestion. We tend to obsess over the way how they deliver feedback and who told us off. Take substantial steps to move ahead. Try to work out how to bring these suggestions into actions in your daily routine and stop over analyzing.
7. Manage stress and get to problem resolving
Use criticism to tackle the problem. See where you can improve. Mostly we put ourselves under pressure because we take blame to heart. Avoid being on edge all the time. Breathe in and breathe out. Resolve the issues raised and don’t get stressed about it; it is merely feedback!
8. Smile and say thank you
This criticism is just one person’s point of view for you. The best you can do is smile and move on. Be grateful for the inputs as it would help you improve and say “thank you.”
Criticism is beneficial for your personal growth. It makes you humble and honest. Criticism also helps to channel your instincts, it makes you emotionally stable and improves your relationships with your friends, family, partner, and colleagues. We need to learn that the person critiquing is just trying to help and not attack us. Be thankful and take criticism in its stride, after all, it is not the end of the world!
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