Love is beautiful! Especially the first love during your teenage. This feeling of being in love is extraordinary. But, first love, is one of a kind. Falling in love is indeed a great thing that a lot of people have experienced once in their life. The first time you develop feelings for someone is fantastic. Being in love is like walking in a meadow where birds are singing, and the soft wind is kissing your cheeks. Here are some teenage relationships advice and tips that every teen must know.
The first time that you will fall in love, it will change your life up to 360 degrees. No matter how much you try, the feeling will never go away. It stays for a lifetime.
But the worst part about being in love is dealing with heartbreak. Heartbreak is something that no one likes to deal with no matter how old or how strong you are. Heartbreak is one of the experiences that all of us humans go through and can share. When you experience your first heartbreak, it can feel abandoned. Like a crushing blow to your heart or like someone has stabbed you, and you can do nothing. The pain is unbearable.
For teenagers, this phase is ten times worse because of their lack of experience in dealing with such situations.
As a teacher, I have come across various cases of teen love and heartbreaks. Teenagers usually associate their whole life with that one person, and when they face heartbreak, they think it’s the end of the world. What breaks my heart is to hear these kids believe that their lives are over when someone breaks up with them or doesn’t love them in return.
Back in school days, I have come across various cases of attempted suicides or actual deaths just over a silly infatuation. I could have merely avoided all that with proper communication and guidance. Teens are trained in all aspects like academics, music, dance, sports, etc. but not in situations of love and heartbreak. In some communities, families, and schools, teenagers falling in love is a big taboo.
I don’t understand why parents feel that their child will NEVER fall in love or be attracted to someone until they are old enough and it’s their age to get married. I have watched parents punish their children just because the child was drawn or fell in love with someone. Some parents do not appreciate falling in love in the name of culture and religion.
This attitude from the parents is only widening the communication gap between the child and the elders as the child is afraid to speak about his or her feelings.
Luckily these days many academic and religious institutions are providing counseling services and seminars for both parents as well as teenagers with these aspects. As a teacher, I had the opportunity to be a part of many such workshops and training sessions.
Here Are Some Relationship Advice & Tips For Teenagers
1. Be Ready for Pain
Every relationship comes with a few terms and conditions.
No matter how good the relationship is or how kind and loving the other person is, there is undoubtedly going to be some pain. Pain is part and parcel of any relationship. Beware that when I use the term pain, I don’t refer to any physical abuse, emotional abuse, or violence. Pain in relationships can occur because of petty arguments, disagreements, or doubts.
The most common reason for heartbreak in a connection is a break-up. When you get into a relationship, remember that there will be fights and arguments and you need to be ready for it.
2. Heartbreak is NOT the end
No one likes to go through a break-up. The feeling is terrible. Teenagers can get easily depressed and can inflict self-harm after getting their hearts broken. You need to know that this heartbreak is not the end of your story.
It is just a small chapter that you will look back and laugh at in the future. Don’t let the end of one relationship stop you from falling in love again or trusting someone again. Don’t be afraid to fall in love back.
3. Communication is the key to solutions
If you are going through a problematic phase in a relationship, don’t be afraid to talk. Talk to your partner or your parents or elder siblings. If these aren’t an option, talk to your teachers or your school counselors. Vent your heart out or cry it out but don’t be afraid to take the risk.
It is imperative that you convey how you feel to someone trustworthy. If you choose to keep things to yourself, it is going to build up and finally explode destroying you. Thus, talk. If you can’t find anyone to speak; then get in touch with online counselors.
4. A Blind Can Never Lead Another Blind
If you are feeling lost or depressed in a relationship, don’t ask your classmates or friends for advice. They belong to the same age group and have the same maturity level as you.
The information that they provide may not be the right one and may end up complicating the matters. Hence, avoid asking your classmates or friends for advice or sharing your details with them.
5. Find the Right Person
Never date someone just because they are famous or rich or good looking. Look beyond that at their personality, heart, and behavior. Usually, teens want to be in the limelight and crave a vast fan following. They end up dating the wrong kind of people.
Such people are dangerous and toxic to your life. It takes time to find the right person. There is a slim chance that you will see that right person in your school. So don’t waste your time with the wrong people. Focus on your studies and your career. The right person will show up when the time is perfect.
6. Know When Enough Is Enough
Be aware of your limits and know when to end things. Don’t be afraid to step up for yourself if things are making you uncomfortable.
If your partner is asking you to spend too much money, pressurizing you into any kind of sexual activity, emotionally abusing you, insulting you front of others, using physical violence or making you do things that are against your will and making you uncomfortable, step up for yourself and take a stand.
Don’t be afraid to end a relationship that is toxic. If you need help, contact someone you trust immediately.
7. Avoid PDA
For teenagers, social media is life. Every day I come across multiple lovey-dovey posts of teenagers. They upload statuses every time there is a fight or if they make up again.
Don’t over demonstrate your relationship events on Facebook, Instagram, or any other form of social media.
Simple photos are acceptable but avoid publishing each and every detail on social media. Everything you do on the internet leaves a trail and such posts can come back haunting you in the future.
8. Take Your Time
Don’t take relationship-related decisions immediately unless the situation is such. If you receive a proposal from someone, take your time before letting the other person know how you feel. If you have a fear that the other person may end up harming you or themselves on rejection, keep someone informed about the same.
Relationships take time to build up. People who are married for 25 years still discover something new and different about their spouses every day. Being in a relationship is an adventure that you take. Sometimes the weather can be roughly spoiling the experience. Sometimes it can be pleasant.
9. Know The Differences between Lust, Infatuation, and Love
Lastly but most importantly, know the difference between the three. Lust is when you are attracted to a person purely on a sexual basis. Infatuation is when you feel drawn to a person based on their popularity and looks, but the attraction is short-lived.
Love is something that lasts forever where the looks, fame, or any other factors don’t matter. The only things that matter are comfort, compatibility, and your happiness.
Remember, as Marilyn Monroe said,
Sometimes good things fall apart so BETTER things can fall together. So stay positive and look forward to your love life.
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