As long as we can all remember the idea of having a friend was pretty popular. People
longed for friendship and popularity all the way through high school and sometimes even in their adult life. But why do we need friends in the first place? While you’re young never underestimate the importance of having a good friend. Consider you are rich if you have more than two really good friends. It’s so nice to have comradery and people you feel you connect with. I remember being perfectly pleased in high school because I had so many friends in so many different crowds that I felt pretty special.
In order to be truly fulfilled in life, you do not need tens or hundreds of friends.
All you need is just a well-rounded group of friends. Sometimes even just a well-rounded person to give you the friendship and company that you need.
Surrounded by the many so-called friends, turned out to be fake. I was drained because a lot of those people I called my friends weren’t really my friends and didn’t care for me. Just because someone spends time with you and smiles at you from time to time doesn’t mean you can trust them.
Some of them had bad qualities for friendship like dishonesty or lack of genuineness. I even had someone who I thought was one of my best friends gossip about me behind my back.
As an adult, I quickly learned that the number of friends I had was meaningless and a waste of time to worry about.
A report says the majority of adults have only just 2 best friends, in spite of the huge friend list on Facebook.
It’s not the quantity but the quality and type of friends on your list that matters.
I found it from experience that it’s the types of friends I have in my life, that are really what’s important.
You need people who bring a positive force into your life. You need people who love you for you and want what’s best for you.
If someone isn’t bringing anything to the table, why are they there?
A 10-year study by the Centre for Ageing at Flinders University discovered that a network of friends was more critical than close family and relatives in prolonging life.
People over the age of 70 with real friends tend to live 22% longer than those with fewer social networks.
So what are the type of friends you need in your life? There are a lot of different qualities needed in a good friend but here are some of the top 3 types of friends you need to push you and motivate you to have a well-rounded life you can feel proud of.
3 Types of Friends You Need To Have In Your Group
1. The Friend That Challenges You
This is that person in your life that doesn’t take your excuses. You tell them you want to accomplish something and they are going to hold you accountable. Not only are they going to hold you accountable but they are going to push and encourage you to go for the things you desire.
Comfort zones are not suitable homes and they’ll make sure you don’t live there. They will always be reminding you of your potential and how far you can go, maybe not always in the Disney fairy tale way you imagine, but they are your friend and will be able to keep it real with you.
The best thing about this friend is that they’ll believe in you sometimes more than you believe in yourself.
I don’t know about you, but sometimes I need that extra kick of motivation and positivity to achieve my goals.
2. The Friend That’s Your Emergency Contact
This friend is vital. Sometimes you need someone to talk to. Sometimes you need someone to vent to. I remember when I had just broken up with a boyfriend and had stayed up crying until 5 am every day. All the friends I supposedly had, I didn’t feel like I could call on any of them. Except for one.
I could call one person and I knew they not only would pick up, but would get up and come straight to me to help me in by the time of need.
No matter what the stress is, an emotional emergency, or a physical one, this friend is gonna be there for you.
When you feel like the world is crumbling around you this friend will be right there with you and for you. That kind of support in a friendship is something that everyone should have because you will need someone who can have your back when you’re ready to give up.
3. The Comic Relief Friend
This may not make much sense at first but hear me out. In order to be the boss individual, you are you gotta push yourself through some struggles.
You’re going to have times when you’re feeling down or exhausted. You’re even going to
have times you desperately just want a break.
This friend is to make sure that you are not all work and no play. They are there to make sure that you are enjoying yourself even if that just means cracking a joke whenever they are with you.
I’m that friend for most people. I am all about my business when it’s business time but when I get with my friends, I make sure they are laughing and smiling and enjoying themselves because that MATTERS.
It’s so important to laugh and to smile. Sometimes I think we forget how much meaning it gives to life. Your comic relief friend will keep you laughing and smiling and feeling light-hearted amongst all the other issues you have in your life.
Concluding thoughts,
The point of all these friends is to keep you balanced. Sometimes you need to cry. Sometimes you need to laugh. And sometimes you need to get your crap together and in order and be the boss that you are. It’s not always easy but with a support system with these qualities, you can’t go wrong.
The best thing about these types of friends is that it doesn’t have to be found in 3 different
people. My very best friend is both someone that challenges me, encourages me, listens to me vent, and cracks me up when I need it. She keeps me on my toes but also makes sure I’m taking care of me.
So even if your three types of friends come in one body, you’re still ahead of the game because good friendship qualities like these are hard to find.
What type of friendship qualities do you think you should have? Do you have any friends that fit the bill? Are you any of these things for your friends? Comment down below!
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