1) The smallest things strike to you as unacceptable: the wrong pair of pants, the wrong dinner, the way your shoes feel or the way you are tucked in at night. You are a child of high standards, and if you disagree with something, you make it known.
2) It’s not that you are a difficult child; you are actually an absolute delight, if you find the right company. You are sweet and generous, helpful with others for that matter.
3) You notice beautiful colors in the flower gardens or the leaves changing in the fall. You love nature and delight in the small things around you.
4) You are grateful and polite to others.
6) But when you disagree, you are the most headstrong, stubborn person anyone would have ever come across. You don’t not comply to be obedient, you comply when you feel it is the right thing to do or it makes sense to you.
7) Research shows that disobedient children earn more as adults and are also more likely to be entrepreneurs.
8) Will minded children tend to think more outside the box, lending them a certain creative upper hand when it comes to new ideas and starting businesses. Entrepreneurs tend not to play by the rules.
9) Strong-willed children are usually self-motivated and inner-directed, and often grow into leaders as adults.
10) They are more impervious to peer pressure and go after what they want with more gusto.
11) They want to “learn things for themselves rather than accepting what others say, so they test the limits over and over,” and this relates to relationships as well. Such discernment involves not only when they cut their hair, eat vegetables, or choose to wear a coat, but also in whom they decide to trust and in whom they choose to follow or who they allow themselves to be influenced by.
Morality is doing what’s right, no matter what you’re told, while obedience is doing what you’re told, sometimes unquestioningly, sometimes despite knowing better, sometimes to the detriment of others or one’s self.
Of course parents must insist for their children to obey them when their lives are in danger. They need to listen when parents make them hold their hands in parking lots or crossing streets. They need to refrain from grabbing the sharp end of a knife or the hot burner on a stove. But for the little things, the everyday, non-life-threatening issues, parents might let up a bit on them. Obedience as a result of trust, not of broken will, is of chief importance.
So for now, let the little things go. The hair may be unkempt, but the spirit is intact.